Many of us find ourselves repeating undesired emotions or behaviors, and cannot understand why they keep interfering with our happiness.
Repeated failed relationships, anxiety, depression or addiction patterns can be hard to shake if you cannot find the origins of these symptoms and do not understand why they show up in your life the way they do.
The same is true for illness and other symptoms that express in ways you do not understand.
Family Constellation work looks for the “why” of all these patterns.
Frequently, repeated patterns of unhappiness and failure come out of a deep connection, love and loyalty to our families of origin. It sounds strange, but it is true, even for those who feel alienated from their family.
Unresolved trauma, unfinished business, or unexpressed pain or shame in family systems move forward into the next generations. This has now been proven by epigenetic research around the world. (See this article in Discover Magazine to understand epigenetics and emotions.)
Carl Jung already understood this when he said:
“It often seems as if there were an impersonal karma within a family, which passes on from parents to children. It has always seemed to me that I had to … complete, or perhaps continue, things which previous ages had left unfinished.”
In our Family Constellations workshops you can explore whether you are entangled in generational suffering and holding unconscious loyalties to loved ones that keep your life bound to their unfinished emotional business
Maybe you carry your mother’s anxiety or your father’s shame of failure? You may be repeating the emotional experience of an excluded family member, in an unconscious attempt to bring them back home into the family. Once unconscious dynamics come to light, you have a chance to change them and a deep shift can unfold.